The effects of our failures can be positive and negative for us and our relatives, as managers, we must know the different faces to tame and to leverage our strategies to achieve our goals.
Failure, facing this terrible situation or facing this reality, where we have not achieved the expected result. This gives us a sometimes fleeting or endless desire to sink into the depths of the earth, to go to bed. Worse than face the real failure, our imagination makes us feel, experience its painful scent, which paralyzes us, like the deer in the middle of the road taken in the car headlights will remain fixed to be euthanized. The fear of failure and its perception are nothing more than the euthanasia of our action, our aspirations and the realization of our "Talent".
How to get through? The appeasement goes if we find it, will come from this soul friend or family friend that we know charitable who will surgically try to separate this failure from what we are. "You did not succeed, but it's not your fault", "seriously, nobody could have done it" we turn to "the other" so that it frees us, but we free ourselves from what ?
Emil Cioran said "dread failure, it's fears ridicule ..." ridicule, we are afraid of being laughed at. How the laughter of others can turn our lives into a weapon that pushes us to abandon our dreams, to keep quiet when you have something to say, not to act when the situation allows, and finally we to leave the country of hope for that of regrets?
Let's leave the emotional and let's see what we're talking about. A failure is a gap between a result or an expected situation and a result or a real situation there is nothing emotional it is cold, but factual and until then I feel nothing. This gap in terms of its impact on our life, that of ours or of the society in which we operate, needs to be measured, analyzed, to find the cause and take if it is worth the or actions candle to avoid that this happens again. Again, failure does not paralyze me quite the contrary, it pushes me to action to bring my person or my world to normality.
The emotion, the fear, the desire to return to the earth does not come from the other who will make us ridiculous, but from the power we give him and from the fear that we then have of the use he makes of make. We give him the power to laugh at us, we put our self in food.
How do we do that? In life, we have several mirrors that send us the image of our self. There is our personal mirror that no one sees apart from us, that of the other who gives us the image of how he wants me to be. My personal mirror puts me in a factual situation as stated above.
To finish the quote from Mr Cioran "dread failure, it is fear ridicule there is nothing more petty. To go forward is precisely not to be afraid of becoming the laughingstock of others ".
Failure and success are facts, the first illusion is to believe others when they tell us that they are always our doing. The results of our businesses are the result of many factors, it is an illusion to think that we are the determining factor. Our action as sometimes our inaction can lead to success or failure. It is like accepting that we are told that we are perfect, while we know intrinsically, that it is not true.
Humility in its acceptance of the power we have over us, and the lack of power or control over what surrounds us, instead of making us weak makes us strong, because it frees me from the power of the other.
The results that come on the shores of our life, failure or success, are part of our school of life, and even if we do not control our existence it should not lead us to abdicate the power. I do not control my environment, but my person yes as long as I do not lie to myself.
What concerns us about success or failures are their consequences, not the effects on our image, but of course society, our families and the evolution of our genius or talent that we all inherited
To conclude, I hope that in our managerial skills, we will be able to free ourselves from the fear of failure, I conclude with Abraham Lincoln who said "What I want to know first of all is not if you have failed, but if you have accepted your failure".